Free Awareness ‘Relaxation Retreat’ – 2011 – Part 1

  • you cannot relax in the future, your future projection is useless for you,  to try to manage SOMETHING ABOUT that
  • you can only relax with your very projection about the future, it’s always right here, right now, with whatever story happens there is no excuse possible and if there’s an excuse, that’s the story to relax into
  • whenever you notice your story you stop trying to manage the outcome of your projection
  • you find this OKness, your freedom (freedom from your own ideas and emotions!!),  right here, right now 
  • instead of freedom from you can say FREEDOM IN , freedom in your emotions, freedom in your thoughts by simply relaxing into them not trying to be anybody, not knowing anything
  •  only a thought can be unhappy with the thought 
  • worrying about how we feel is what we have been taught but it is not necessary, it’s optional, it creates suffering and avoidance and feeling like you are being harmed  
  • if you are totally vulnerable even as much as 2 seconds, in the midst of what we call disturbed emotions, for those 2 seconds we confirm experientially that there’s really nothing happening, of course it’s happening, but that which we try to protect by standing separate and avoiding as if THIS can be harmed somehow, when we are totally vulnerable, totally fearless for 2 secs, just experience whatever is experienced without believing in the stories , without focussing on anything , we allow it to overtake us, to overwhelm us , and in that conscious vulnerability, you notice that you are not harmed , it’s just happening and its own undoing and it increases in intensity, it reaches a boiling point and it decreases in intensity and you’re still here, so there was no reason to really fear it, and the fear and the avoidance made it feel like such an enemy but really in essence it is still only a perception of awareness, it is timeless  perfection, its essence is that empty perfection 
  • rest openly with whatever comes
  • we are addicted to good feelings, but good feelings come and go!
  • openness as an experience, as a sensation is just that
  • every sensation is perceived, so sensation is purely perception
  • there is an awareness of every perception, you know that you feel open and you know that you feel contracted
  • so your well-being is not in a feeling , it is in knowing, the fact that you’re knowing this experience because THAT’S WHAT IS ALWAYS WITH YOU
  • FEELINGS COME AND GO and if you investigate into the sensation of openness you can’t find happiness in there , you can’t find well-being in there , you can’t even find freedom in there , it’s just a sensation!
  • can you find happiness? can you find stable well-being? can you find freedom? it’s just another sensation and of course our initial response is “this feels free” but does it contain any freedom? it’s freedom because of the sensation, if so then it is not freedom! freedom has to be freedom always because it is not bound – that’s the very definition of freedom! not dependent on what you  feel!
  • so to be able to rest even with contraction and with your desire for openness , to relax into that sensation which is just another sensation, again you are naturally aware of  this spontaneous here and now freedom which doesn’t mean anything
  • don’t try to look for awareness
  • don’t try to escape
  • enjoy the ride, as if you are all there is
  • the space of your direct experience is allowing everything and it is playing with itself, enjoy it ! and it has nothing to do with what happened and what is about to happen or who said what … nothing! it’s just AS IT IS, free from being tied to CAUSATION
  • so we relax causality, we relax our projection of time and people and others and me , we relax those stories and we fully appreciate and experience whatever is experienced, fearlessly more and more, without needing to escape it because we find that we don’t, we really don’t there’s an equanimity to even the intensity of rage

This Weekend Retreat Bentinho Massaro emphasizes ‘Relaxation’ as one of the key instructions for total conviction in freedom being Always Already the case and for the seeking tendency to lay down its armory.

To relax all focus for 2-to-5 seconds, throughout every experience, again and again, is the most used instruction in this particular retreat and one that I return attention to consistently.

Relaxation means to let go of knowing what you should and shouldn’t experience. It means to no know anything about anything for 2-to-5 seconds.

Whatever appears on the face of awareness, we always have the option to: A) Worry about what is appearing and think we know what it means and whether it is right or wrong, or: B) Relax our focus and ideas about what is experienced and simple BE, for a moment.

This simple technique is one of few powerful techniques that establish one in being free from suffering.

The Hawn Foundation

Dr. Jon Kabat Zinn speaks about his experience at the UvA treatment centre for parent and child and the mindfulness training for children and parents.

The School for The Work of Byron Katie

Eckhart Tolle on Facing Adversity

A comprehensive look at the meaning of adversity, the opportunities it presents us, and how we can arrive at a place where we can truly say “life is good.”

You see your so-called life … it may be crumbling and it is painful, we are not denying it, it is. But it is a chance and opportunity for people to go deeper, and realise a foundation, something, what you can call  true sense of safety and security that has nothing to do with the externals of your life. It seems that it is necessary for many people experience adversity in the form of loss, to be driven there voluntarily they do not go there, and not everybody who experiences adversity will go there, some get trapped in a reactive movement, they  become deeply either angry, not fair, should not have happened to me, or despondent can’t take anymore!, or cry for the next 5 years, you get stuck in reactive movement, so more deeply stuck in a rigid pattern, but there is a chance that you can go deeper, and let go of seeking to identify with any form in your life, and suddenly something arises deep within that is peaceful you cannot name it, and so you have touched suddenly something that you didn’t knowe existed within you, the Formless. or Spirit which is the Formless, suddenly you have the peace that passes all understanding. Well I am trying to explain it! But it is hard to explain it!

Change the World Movie

I truly believe that most of the time…less is more. Sometimes, certain things viewed in certain ways have the ability to make an impact on our life in a positive way. I think Eleanor Roosevelt said it best, “It is not fair to ask of others, what you are unwilling to do yourself”

via Change the World Movie.