Learning from “Vital Lies, Simple Truths” by Daniel Goleman, Part 1

  • Ulric Neisser “There is always more to see than anyone sees, and more to know than anyone knows. Why don’t we see it, why don’t we bother to know it?”
  • We filter experience so we we see only what we need to see, know only what we need to know.
  • Do we really see what we look at? … we don’t, we see what we look for.

 

The Invisible Gorilla 

  • Schemas guide the mind’s eye in deciding what to perceive and what to ignore.
  • When emotions stir schemas, they lend a special potency. Emotions and thoughts are part and parcel of the same process.
  • Schemas determine which focus attention seeks, and hence what will enter awareness. When driven by emotions like anxiety, schemas impose themselves with special force.
  • Schemas are the lions at the gate of awareness – they determine not only what enters but what does not.
  • Information which never reaches awareness nevertheless has a strong influenceon how we perceive and act.
  • The mind is aware of the meaning of an event before the event and its significance enter awareness.
  • Schemas can guide awareness while remaining out of awareness. We observe only their effects, not their identity.
  • PERCEPTION NEED NOT BE CONSCIOUS
  • The most crucial act of perception is in making the decision as to what will and will not enter awareness. This filtering is carried out before anything reaches awareness; the decision itself is made outside awareness.
  • The later volitional decision of what to attend to has, as a consequence a limited range. Will is free only within limits: the array presented to awareness, from which we can choose to note one thing ot the other, is preselected. Attention can range freely, but within a delimited domain.
  • WE NEVER CAN KNOW WHAT INFORMATION OUR SCHEMAS HAVE FILTERED OUT, BECAUSE WE CANNOT ATTEND TO THE OPERATION OF THE FILTER THAT MAKES THE SELECTION
  • AN INTELLIGENCE scans, filters, and selects information; schemas embody that intelligence. The whole operation goes on out of awareness.

 

 

Manage Your Emotions by Karyn Hall

This is priceless, to the point, advice:

Part 1

Part 2 

 

 

From Anita Moorjani, wise words & note to self!

“After I posted my last quote, several have asked what I mean by “honouring your feelings and emotions“.

What this means is, we need to listen to how we FEEL, rather than how we THINK. Following how we FEEL means doing things that brings you the most happiness and joy, rather than what you THINK you SHOULD do or what other people think you should do.”